Why Women Don't Feel Safe Around Nice Guys | Dr. Robert Glover

Dr. Robert Glover

Dr. Robert Glover examines the underlying behavioral dynamics that cause women to feel unsafe or uncomfortable around typical 'Nice Guy' personalities. He offers insights and practical resources for men looking to break free from passive, people-pleasing habits and cultivate authentic confidence.

Ready to break free from the "Nice Guy" patterns holding you back? Work with Dr. Robert Glover, the world's leading authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome. Get started with his books, courses, and coaching at https://drglover.com/ ➖ What You'll Find at drglover.com ➖ Dr. Glover's website is the ultimate resource for men ready to become powerful, confident, and successful in every area of their lives. You will find: Online Courses: Deep-dive video courses to help you master dating, relationships, and your own masculinity. Workshops & Seminars: Live events to accelerate your growth with Dr. Glover and a tribe of like-minded men. Coaching: Work directly with Dr. Glover and his certified coaches to get personalized guidance. Books & Audio: Access Dr. Glover's groundbreaking books, including the international bestseller No More Mr. Nice Guy. Ready to become an Integrated Man? Get the tools you need at https://drglover.com/ ➖ Who Is Dr. Robert Glover? ➖ I have been working with men for over 30 years. It is my passion and my life's purpose to help men get what they want in love, sex, and life. As a Doctor of Marriage and Family Therapy and author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, I have watched countless men transform from passive, people-pleasing "Nice Guys" into the powerful, Integrated Men they were born to be. All of my work is dedicated to giving men the tools, resources, and support they need to go from insecure and ineffective to confident, passionate, and masterful. I hope you will join me on this journey. Learn more at: https://drglover.com/ ➖ About The Video ➖ My second wife told me that everybody thinks I'm a nice guy, but I'm not. Passive aggressive. Can't be trusted. She didn't feel safe with me. I sat there thinking, I'm the good one here. You're the one who's angry, you're the one throwing things, I'm the one holding everything together. She was right and I was wrong. I wasn't trustworthy. I had a lie coach in my head telling me what to leave out and how to tell it so nobody got upset. I still catch him working. You hear it constantly in couples therapy. She says I don't feel safe with him, and he says what are you talking about, I've never hit you, I don't yell at you. So we are not talking about physical safety. Women do not feel secure on this planet, and most men have no idea. Here is what I ask men. Do you feel safe walking in your neighborhood at night? Most of us say yeah, I'm fine. Now go ask a woman the same question, and then ask her about the daytime. You will be surprised how many say not really. I'm not going to tell you men are all bad and it's toxic masculinity. But we have done great harm to women, and we've done it without even realizing we've done it. David Deida described it as a big flipper on the front of us. Every time we move, it smacks her across the face. Women have one too and they don't know they have it. That's why we all feel wounded by each other and none of us can point to when it happened. Nobody is claiming the higher ground here. Women hurt men, men hurt women, and when I asked women in therapy why they kept doing the thing they knew was hurting their partner, the answer was always the same. I don't know. I can't help myself. Blame doesn't shed light on any of it. Consciousness does. If you brought my wife on right now and asked her what I've done this week that hurt her, she could name half a dozen things I never noticed doing. ▶ New videos weekly. Subscribe and turn on notifications. ▶ Work with me directly, one-on-one: https://drglover.com/drglover-coaching/ #NoMoreMrNiceGuy #DrRobertGlover #NiceGuyRecovery #RelationshipAdvice #MarriageAdvice #EmotionalSafety --- Don't forget to like and subscribe!