Hold the Trash | #relationshiptips

Alison Armstrong

This video introduces the communication concept of "holding the trash" to help partners navigate emotional venting without conflict. It explains how men can hold supportive space for an overwhelmed partner to foster deeper connection and intimacy.

Friendly reminder ;) SEND THIS TO YOUR PARTNER and teach them this simple communication tip on “Holding the Trash”.🗑️ There’s a lot of things about women and trash. We want you to take out the trash. We want you to put the bag in. You want us to tell you when and we think it’s obvious. There’s a whole fight but this holding the trash is that when a woman is overwhelmed and she needs to literally barf everything that’s in her mental, emotional and physical space out of her and she’ll ask a man to just listen which is mean. Women, just stop asking men to just listen. He’s not built for that and men stop agreeing to do it because it will biologically emasculate you. Instead offer, “Well I can’t just listen but I can hold the trash.” When you’re holding the trash you don’t have to remember anything she says but if she pauses wait a bit and then say, “Anything else?” That’ll feel like love. You gotta mean it. You can’t hope that there isn’t anything else. You got to mean, “Anything else? You’re the most fascinating creature in the entire world.” This is foreplay. It will actually have her more receptive to sex and get a feeling to her a lot less often which will save your life. She’ll mostly just go blah blah blah blah. If you’re a woman listening you can set a man up to totally save you. One time I asked Greg, “Could you just hold the trash?” By the time that I was done I forgot that I asked him to do it so when he said, “Poor baby.” I just burst into tears and said, “You’re so wonderful I can’t believe you said that. That is the perfect thing to say.” #relationshipgoals #relationshipadvice